I get a lot of letters from people who are working through the early-stage grief cycles of loved ones who are in the death process - meaning, they are likely terminally ill (or have been terminally injured somehow) and their biomechanical processes are coming to an end.  There are a lot - and I mean a LOT - of emotions around these events, and it would be difficult to write anything that could fully address all of those emotions.   But I've noticed that a lot of my readers are interested less in diminishing their own grief, but instead are more interested in helping their loved one transition well.  This is a very valid pursuit, and one our westernized culture honors very little.   We focus so much on grieving - an entire industry has sprung up around it, actually - that we forget that those who transitioned needed support, too, and that in our grief - our worry about how we would feel when we couldn't see them anymore - we forgot to offer the care and comp...